There are things you should be doing if you’re a newlywed to help your marriage get on the right track from the start.
It’s an exciting time! And you’re probably just enjoying spending as much time together as possible.
But trust me, if you do these things from the beginning, you’ll have a healthier and better marriage in the long run.
So what kinds of things should you be doing as a newlywed?
Getting to Know Your Partner’s Family
This one is important, because you’ll probably be spending a fair amount of time with both sides of the family. Getting along with your husband’s parents, siblings, cousins and more makes it so much easier in the long run. I realize families don’t always work this way, but if you put forth your best effort from day one of your marriage, you have a much better chance of forming positive relationships with your extended family.
Once you’re married, it’s time to get real: Who’s going to cook, wash the dishes, do the laundry, mow the lawn, clean the bathroom? You get the picture. Deciding on which duties you’ll do and which your husband will do will save you a lot of headache in the long run.
Just knowing which chores your partner doesn’t mind doing (or even likes to do) is helpful, even if he or she doesn’t do it every day. My husband likes to cook, so even though I typically do most of the cooking during the week, he doesn’t mind stepping up and taking over on the weekends (which I totally love, as I cook because I have to, not really because I like to!).
Tackling Finances Together
Ah, the dreaded finances. But you know what? If you’re on the same page as newlyweds, then you’re leaps and bounds ahead of many married couples. Most people just let their finances happen without much planning…meaning, you get married, pay bills, have kids, pay a lot more bills, and so on. But talking about financial issues, and especially setting up a savings account in the beginning, is so very smart. As someone who didn’t do this as a newlywed, I’m asking you to please, please do this!
Planning the Future
This is a fun one…who doesn’t like planning their future? But be warned, things usually never go according to plan (especially once you have kids!). That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. I think having things planned out and goals to strive for is smart. Even if they might take a little longer to reach or if they change along the way, having a common goal that you both can work towards and look forward to is encouraging and fun.
Enjoying the Present
It’s probably the most fun task there is, enjoying your present lives and each other. It might seem easy, but the stresses of everyday life can sometimes take a toll on a new marriage. If you’re both working and don’t have a lot of time to spend with each other or money to go out and do things, it might seem hard to enjoy your life. But just remember, you have the rest of your life with this person…everything doesn’t have to be done in a day. Enjoy the little things….go for walks, cook dinner together, watch your favorite TV show. Cherish the moments you have, because not everyone gets to have these moments.
Being a newlywed is a blessing, and doing these things above I hope will help you get off to a great start in your life together.
Have any advice for newlyweds? We’d love to hear it in the comments!
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