I wanted to talk about being busy… too busy to have time for your marriage. Sometimes, our crazy schedule affects a marriage.
When you have a job, a house, kids and other responsibilities, that business becomes a lot. Sometimes it can seem as if you don’t have time for the two of you. You are running in different directions. You aren’t connecting regularly, you aren’t going out, or even hanging out at home because life is too busy.
So… it’s time to break busy. Here are a few suggestions:
1- Don’t always say yes.
I am the queen of saying yes. Yes, I’ll help in the classroom. Yes, I’ll run to the store to grab that thing that we need. Yes, I’ll make a meal for someone. Yes, I’ll help out at our daughter’s dance class. Yes, I”ll drive the carpool both ways. Yes, I’ll help you out at work…
Sometimes, you have to say no in order to do a better job when you say yes. The change in your schedule will allow you to do more for your family: cook dinners more often, take time to watch a movie with your husband, play a board game with your kids… say no to the other things so you can say yes to your family.
2- Don’t give yourself so much to do
I am a list-maker. I make 10 lists a day of things that I need to do and then I rush around until I get them done. Today, don’t put anything on that list!
3- Give the best YOU to your family.
Remember, the best you isn’t a busy you. The best you is one that listens and can focus on what they are saying without thinking of all that you have to do.
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