Running errands, school drop off and pick up, sports practice, homework, dinners, packing lunches… all of the things that become routine when you have kids. Date night? That usually goes out the window with your baby’s first ear infection… for us, it never came back.
It’s amazing how quickly you lose sight of those things. We didn’t miss date night, because we put the kids to bed at a normal bedtime that allowed us time to ourselves, but we did have to find other ways to connect.
1- Help each other out.
When I am busy working on something, my husband will take over dinner. When he is busy, I will clean up the garage for him. It’s those little things that matter, that say “I love you.”
2- Be intentional.
Find time to spend together. We watch certain shows at night. Even if I am busy and he has an hour to spare, or the other way around, we won’t watch them without the other person. We also play board games together and it’s the same thing… we find an hour that we have to ourselves (usually at night) and we sit down and play: no phones, no TV… just us and the game. May the best man (or woman) win!
3- Don’t worry about the fairy tail.
Those moments of you guys dressing up every Friday night to hit the town might be gone, but I’d give up my high-heels and dresses for a pair of yoga pants and a night on the couch watching a movie any day of the week. Once you learn to love the moment you are in, happiness is right there waiting for you.
You have to keep the romance alive. Have date night after the kids are in bed. Hold hands. Hug. Kiss. Spend time together & compliment each other.
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