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Just Listen

July 8, 2017 by becky

Women want someone to listen… Men want to fix things.
Men want someone to listen… women want to give advice.

We all want someone to JUST LISTEN.

It seems to be the way that things go, but the thing is, sometimes you don’t want someone else to try to ‘solve’ your problem.. you just want them to listen to you.

I’ve learned this more, since becoming a mom.  I don’t need to solve their problems, they just want me to listen to them.  When I offer advice, they are usually discouraged by it, instead of encouraged by it.  This isn’t what I want for them.  I’ve learned to become a sounding board.

It’s no different with my husband.   When he tells me something that is wrong, I’ve learned that he just wants to tell someone.  If he needs advice, he’ll ask for it.

I’m the same way- I just want someone to listen; listening itself is an exceptional gift.

According to MarsVenus Coaching: “By giving him space to pull away and not taking it personally, you allow him to reconnect with his desire for you and his commitment to the relationship.”

Another source says “Before you can listen, you have to be aware that your partner is talking to you. If you are busy and you hear them talking to you, stop what you are doing and talk to them. If you can’t do that, tell them that you will be with them shortly. Miscommunication happens when a person is too wrapped up in what they are doing and then fail to realize that their partner is talking to them.

Acknowledge what they are saying. Do not just stare blankly at your partner while they are talking. Always acknowledge them with enthusiastic nods or by saying words like “Yes”, “Uh-huh”, “I see” or anything that is appropriate for the conversation. It might seem like such a small detail, but they will appreciate you for showing that you are indeed listening to them.” ~Danielle Anne, LovePanky, marriage therapist

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Becky Mansfield, wife to her high school sweetheart has been happily married since June 2004. She & her husband have four children. They work together, from home, on their blogs: Your Modern Family & Your Modern Dad. They keep their marriage strong by binge-watching Netflix shows, sneaking ice cream when the kids are asleep & making each other laugh.
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